I had a really good friend, and I decided to introduce another friend to them. At first, everything seemed fine, and we all got along well. But after a few months, I noticed that my two friends started hanging out without me. It felt strange, and I couldn’t help but wonder why they were excluding me when I was the one who brought them together in the first place.
After few months, suddenly I realized that maybe they ignoring me. I didn’t really care where they were going or what they were doing; I had no issues with that. What confused me was why they suddenly stopped including me. I wondered if they saw me as boring or less interesting compared to others.
Sometimes when they called and invited me, I couldn’t go, and they seemed to take it personally. They probably thought they mattered less to me, but that’s not true at all. This is just a misunderstanding. I think they didn’t realize that my reasons for not being able to join weren’t about them.
As an introvert, I’ve noticed that many people, even my own family, don’t understand me. People often find me annoying because I don’t talk much, but the reason I don’t engage in small talk is that I prefer discussing real, meaningful topics. Some people are uncomfortable with that kind of honesty, and I think this is why my friendships don’t last long.( This is my experienced I just shared)
It seems that the majority of people aren’t interested in talking about reality or truth. They prefer to avoid these conversations. In the end, some people come back and admit they agree with what I said, but others don’t. This is why my friendships often don’t last as long as I’d like them to.
Friendships can be difficult to understand, especially when you feel like things are going well but suddenly change without warning. I’ve been in situations where I thought everything was fine with my friends, only to find out later that they were hanging out without me. This left me feeling confused and wondering, “Why don’t my friendships last long?”
Let me explain what I’ve noticed about my friendships and why I think they don’t last as long as I’d like.
1. Meeting New People
I’ve always tried to be friendly and talk to my friends regularly. Recently, I had two friends I was close with, and then I met two new people. We started talking, and everything felt good. I hung out with these new people, and things seemed to be going fine.
But after a few weeks, I noticed something strange. My original two friends started hanging out without me. They didn’t invite me or tell me about it. This felt odd. I couldn’t help but ask myself, “Why is this happening?” It made me feel left out, like maybe I wasn’t interesting to them anymore.
2. Am I Boring?
I started to think that maybe I’m just not that interesting. I know I’m an introvert, so I don’t always talk a lot or do exciting things. But I never felt like I had to be someone else just to fit in with my friends. However, when they didn’t invite me, I began to feel like they didn’t enjoy my company as much as they used to.
I wasn’t upset about where they were going or what they were doing without me. I didn’t have any issues with that. But I did feel strange knowing that they didn’t think of inviting me. It seemed like they didn’t find anything about me interesting enough to include me.
3. Misunderstandings
I’ve noticed that people often misunderstand me. For example, there were times when my friends invited me to hang out, but I couldn’t go. Maybe I had something else to do, or I just wasn’t in the mood. But when I said no, they seemed to take it the wrong way.
They thought I didn’t care about them, or they felt like they were less important to me. This wasn’t true at all. I valued their friendship, but sometimes I couldn’t always be there. It didn’t mean I didn’t care. Unfortunately, they didn’t see it that way, and it seemed to cause some distance between us.
4. Being an Introvert
One of the main reasons I think my friendships don’t last is because I’m an introvert. Being an introvert means I enjoy quiet time alone, and I don’t always need to talk or be around people. When I do talk, I prefer to discuss real things. I like conversations about truth, reality, and deep topics. I’m not very interested in small talk or casual conversations that don’t mean much.
This is where the problem comes in. Most people don’t seem to understand me, even my own family. They think I’m too quiet or wonder why I don’t talk much. They might even say things like, “Why are you always so serious?” or “You’re no fun.” It’s frustrating because I know I’m just being myself. I don’t talk much, but when I do, I talk about things that matter to me.
5. The Truth Is Hard for Some People
Another thing I’ve noticed is that people don’t always like to hear the truth. I believe in speaking the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. But some people are allergic to reality. They don’t want to hear things that might be difficult to accept. They’d rather have fun and avoid serious conversations.
Because of this, I think some people distance themselves from me. They don’t want to talk about the things I talk about, or they feel like I’m being too honest. But the strange part is that, later on, some of these same people come back and say, “You were right” or “I agree with you.” It’s like they know I was speaking the truth, but they didn’t want to admit it at the time.
6. Why Friendships Don’t Last
So why don’t my friendships last? I think it’s because of a combination of things. First, people might find me boring because I don’t always join in on their activities or talk about the same things they do. Second, as an introvert, I’m naturally quieter and prefer deeper conversations, which isn’t what most people are looking for in friendships.
Then there’s the truth factor. People don’t always want to hear the truth, and when I talk about real things, it can make them uncomfortable. They might avoid me because of it. They don’t understand that I’m not trying to be difficult or serious all the time—I just value honesty and reality.
What Can Be Done?
I’ve thought a lot about this, and I’ve realized that not everyone is going to appreciate who I am or how I communicate. And that’s okay. I don’t have to change myself just to fit in with others. Instead, I need to focus on finding people who understand me and appreciate me for who I am.
Some friendships might not last, and that’s just a part of life. Not everyone is going to stick around forever, but the ones who do are the ones worth keeping. It’s important to be yourself and find friends who value you for that.
In the end, I think my friendships don’t last because people don’t always understand introverts like me. I talk about real things, and not everyone is ready for that. While it can be hard to see friendships fade, I’ve learned that it’s okay. I don’t have to change who I am, and I will find people who appreciate the deeper conversations I bring to the table.
Friendships may come and go, but being true to yourself is what matters most.
