I am 21 years old now, and I’m still going through this situation. Now I am going to tell you about my stammering journey.
How I Started Stammering
When I was about 6 or 7 years old, I was really good at talking and did not stammer. Then, my parents put me in a hostel because they went abroad, and I started living with my aunts. My hostel was in the town area, and my aunt’s house was nearby. Every week, I would go to my aunt’s house on Friday, stay the whole day, and return to the hostel again.
During this time, I met lots of friends at my aunt’s house, but I had problems with talking. I had moved from a village to a town, and there was an issue with language. We used to speak one way in the village, but the people in the city spoke differently. At first, everyone laughed at me, and I enjoyed it. However, slowly it became the opposite. I felt embarrassed, always putting myself in awkward situations, and I was ashamed of myself. I started talking less and avoided situations where I had to speak. I became a less talkative person and eventually started stammering.
Is There a Solution?
I say YES. Although my stammering has not been completely cured, I have made significant improvements. It depends on the situation and who I am talking to. For example, when I talk with my friends, my mind doesn’t care about whether I stutter or not. However, when I speak to a respectful person or a stranger, I completely freeze. At those times, before I talk, I worry about whether I will speak clearly. When everyone focuses on my lips, it happens more often, and some people laugh while others don’t. It’s all about confidence, which comes from knowledge.
Steps I Took to Improve
Reading Books: I chose books related to personal improvement and fiction. Stammering often affects one’s mother tongue or regular language, but by reading, I expanded my vocabulary and gained more confidence.
Increasing Vocabulary: When I speak, I have issues with some words that I can’t pronounce. Using synonyms has helped a lot. Increasing my vocabulary has really benefited me.
Increasing Knowledge: Educating yourself more than anyone else is crucial. We tend to hold our tongue to avoid stuttering, but with more knowledge, I have learned to care less about stammering.
Talking to Yourself in the Mirror: Standing in front of a mirror and talking to yourself helps you see how you look when you speak and how others see you. Observing your facial expressions can be very enlightening.
Recording Yourself on Camera: Recording yourself while talking about any situation or opinion can help overcome shyness and improve your speaking skills.
Being Selectively Silent: You don’t have to talk too much if your confidence decreases. Control yourself and speak only when necessary. Make sure that when you speak, it always has a point.
Remember, you are not alone, and improvement is possible. Stay strong and keep working towards your goals!
I know it feels really bad. I have had too many bad experiences with this issue. It’s too hard to make a friend make conversation with someone. Just can’t because of tongue fear about everyone laughing. Even our family dont u think it’s only outside people.
So, as soon as you take action, you don’t have to suffer in the future.
