How do you know you are an extreme introvert?
Why are introverts shy? Are introverts always shy?
How do I know I am an introvert? Basically, I did not know anything about introversion, not even the word. But one thing I noticed is that I always felt different from others. When I lived in a hostel, my lifestyle, the way I talked, or even when I opened my mouth to speak was different. You might wonder, if I am an introvert, how do I talk to someone. It’s not that I can’t; I just didn’t make any friends. Everyone else would talk to each other, but not me. It’s hard to feel alone. I spend time alone, walk alone, and talk to myself. It’s not true that I am ugly or anything; I just look for someone who is the best for me, someone who thinks like me or is not very talkative. People say I am boring. I can’t express anything in an entertaining way, but I need some time to better understand a person. My heart wants to understand and trust that person, knowing they won’t leave me.
When I talk to new people, I feel scared and start stuttering, sometimes even failing to say my name. I get really frustrated when this happens. I think, why God, why always me in these situations. It feels like my soul is being separated from my body. I hate going to parties because of the crowds. I always prefer small groups where everyone is hardworking. My experience says they understand me better than anyone. They always think about reality, not nonsense. I can’t make friends because I always suggest the true reality, whether it hurts or not. In the end, it’s always true. Somehow, I know what my friends should or shouldn’t do. The first time I give advice, they ignore me and find someone who tells them what they want to hear. They think that person is their true friend and understands them, and I am not. I tell them that person is lying and doesn’t know the reality of what to do. Eventually, they unfriend me. When the time comes that they understand what I said was true, they either ignore me or avoid talking to me. I hate these situations when they happen. I know, who cares. I love educated, knowledgeable people. I hate talking about what some consider fun. I see some people always talking about girls or men in a bad way, thinking it’s fun. I don’t say anything, I just think and ignore that nonsense.
Personal Connection
Sharing my personal experiences can help others who are introverted feel understood and less alone. For example, when I lived in the hostel, I always felt different because of my lifestyle and the way I talked. This feeling of being different is something many introverts can relate to.
Self-Identification
My story can help others recognize similar traits in themselves and understand that they might be introverts too. If you feel comfortable being alone and find it hard to make friends, you might be an introvert.
Coping Strategies
By talking about my preferences for small groups and hardworking people, I provide examples of how introverts can navigate social situations in a way that feels comfortable to them. I prefer small groups where everyone is hardworking because they understand me better and think about reality, not nonsense.
Breaking Stereotypes
My article challenges the misconception that introverts are always shy or anti-social, highlighting that introverts can have deep, meaningful interactions. It’s not that I can’t talk to someone; I just need time to understand and trust them.
Encouragement
My honesty about my struggles and preferences can encourage others to accept themselves and find environments where they can thrive. I may stutter when I meet new people and get frustrated, but I know I need time to understand and trust someone.
Clarity and Structure
Organizing my thoughts into clear sections makes the article easier to read and understand. For example, I talked about my personal connection, self-identification, coping strategies, breaking stereotypes, and encouragement.
Examples and Scenarios
Providing specific examples or scenarios helps illustrate my points more vividly. For instance, when I lived in the hostel, everyone else would talk to each other, but not me. I spent time alone, walked alone, and talked to myself.
Positive Outcomes
Including some positive experiences or successes as an introvert provides hope and encouragement. I love educated, knowledgeable people. I know what my friends should or shouldn’t do, and in the end, it’s always true.
Look, I am writing in English, which is not my mother language. I am just writing.
